Everyday.

Eleanor Roosevelt said, "do one thing everyday that scares you".  Yesterday, I squashed two spiders so I could get in the shower without them.  I think that was just about enough terror for the week.

Change, but not useless pennies.

There came a moment, sometime in the past few weeks when everything in my life changed.
It all started one night as I sat in the middle of my bedroom floor.  I was the eye of a perfect storm of pictures, clothes, books, accumulated junk and all that lay chaotically around me.  I looked at the mess around me, and focused on the last thing still left in place: the walls, the dreary cement blocks I had artistically, and not so tactfully, plastered with a collage of posters.  I had had my walls decorated with these pictures of famous boarders, gear ads, winter scenery, and neon quotes for the past three years.  Each year a little different, but still the same collection presented in the same way.  I examined closely how they were pasted crooked and overlapping one with another.  My first thought was about the patience it would require to carefully detangle the delegate sheets of paper for a third time, peeling away tape and sticky tack without tearing corners, or what was left of corners.  As I thought about that, I found myself in the middle of a much larger dilemma than the mess of just packing, should I take everything down carefully with the intention of putting them back up, or should I tear everything down and start again fresh.  And as I mulled this over in my mind, I couldn't make a decision.  Then I realized this really had nothing to do with the posters, this was about how my life was about to be dumped upside down.
That's when all this change started:
I took all those posters off of the wall, and didn't put them back up again.
I moved into a new apartment.  Different place, same kind of idea.  With roommates I didn't know.
I'm sharing a room with someone different, my first new roommate since my very first day at BYU.  (I mean, why would you move if you lived with your best friend?)
I'm no longer taking classes, just working full time.  I can't remember the last time I didn't have homework.
I wake up at 6:50 every morning.  That's never happened before.
I have a new job, and a new set of coworkers.
I have free time in the afternoons.
I'm blogging (okay, that's not really different anymore)
I painted my toenails Times Square Tangerine.
I'm learning to cook and successfully added two new dishes to my repertoire this week.
I'm reading a book, just because I can.
I write in a journal.
I wore pants yesterday. all day.
That's just the beginning, I know everything's going to be changing a whole lot more soon.  I'm going to have a different wardrobe, different roommate, going to be speaking a different language and living in a different country.  After all of this, I am going to be a very different person...

mistakes.

Don't go back and try to take chances you missed in the past.   They were opportunities that aren't there anymore.  They were choices you'd already chosen  They were the mistakes you didn't make.

Waiting.

One year ago, I was waiting for a name tag.  Waiting to see, in a matter of months, counted down by weeks, a little black name tag engraved with Elder on it.  I spent each day in suspense of that name tag coming off, because I was waiting for who I thought was my best friend, my better half, a guy that I thought wasn't anything like anyone else I had ever met.  When the moment came, it wasn't at all what I expected, wasn't at all what I thought it would be
I didn't expect to find myself, a year later, again waiting for a name tag.  But this time, the name tag is mine, a little black plastic square reading Sestra Compare.  And this time, I'm waiting for that name tag to go on.  And when the moment comes, it probably won't be anything like I think it will, but that's to be expected.

"But I can only tell you through a song..."

"But I can only tell you through a song..."
These are little snippets to songs that I love, lyrics that have hit me, encouraged me, expressed exactly how I felt at the moment I listened to them.  Because I don't know how to say it, and these songs just said it best.  Each of them hold a very close memory for me, a vivid moment in my life.  10 points if you know the song, 10 giant hugs if you know the moment.


"How beautiful do I have to be?"


"East Coast feeling, stuck in my head"


"There's just nothing that I wouldn't do, to make you feel my love"


"I think I lost myself in your deep blue eyes"


"I'm getting into you, because you got to me in a way words can't describe"


"I would let you know, you cannot walk away, 'cause there are things left to say"


"We're so, so close, we're staring at it.  Please don't go...we'll make it happen...I'm staring at the only love I know"


"Ask me how do I feel"


"If I could gather up the nerve, I'd put my feelings into words"


"I'm in a foreign state, running late, I'm all alone, wishing I was home with you baby"


"When I arrived in my old set of clothes, I was half a world away from my home"


"My love's too big for you my love...if I were stronger I would tell you no, and if I were stronger than I would leave this show...but here I am, and here we go again"


"Through the rain and the snow, we're gonna make it"


"I'm only gonna break break your, break break your heart"


"You could be the hero, and I could be your sidekick"


"Baby you're pretty, but I'm pretty sure I'm over you"


"What should have been, could have been, a happy end"

"I came here with a load, and it feels so much lighter since I've met you"

"You make breaking hearts look so easy, seems like you've done this before"


"Just one more plane ride and it's done"


"Welcome back winter once again and put on your warm fuzzy sweater because you'll feel much better when snowflakes fall"


"When things went wrong, you always had a song that seemed to make things right"


"I was praying that you and me might end up together, it's like wishing for rain as I stand in the desert" 


"Don't worry about a thing, you know your path is true, just ease your mind, have a banana or two"


"Oh, you don't know what you're doing to me"


"my steeze is gonna be effected, if I keep it up like a love-sick crackhead"


"I would like to hold my little hand"


"Love is a luxury, I'd rather be in love than dead"


"someday you'll see there's a reason for everything, someday you'll see there's a reason for you and me"

Every Semester

Every semester should have at least one...

-inside joke used on a daily basis
-good movie night
-camping trip
-weekend get-a-away
-new promise
-big step
-learned song on the guitar
-bas case of butterflies
-all-night-er
-pure heart break
-new friend
-midnight adventure
-failed exam
-perfect paper
-long phone conversation
-plane ticket purchased
-life changing letter
-perfect powder day
-justified cry
-discovery of a new band
-awkward elephant
-new outfit
-concert
-grand adventure
-reconnection
-tearful goodbye
-package in the mail
-laugh attack
-rejuvenating run

and a whole lot of memories

Vulnerability

This woman inspires me; she may or may not have just changed my life.  

You should watch this:

I hate feeling vulnerable, it's one of the biggest struggles I have.  I'm afraid to open myself up, because when I am vulnerable, I shrink back into my shame, embarrassed of who I am.  You know the feeling: you said too much, you acted too honest and you shouldn't have done that.  But, we need that experience; we need to embrace our vulnerability because it is the essence of human connection.  Take a chance, take a risk, just to be yourself.  "All you need is 20 seconds of courage" Even if you get hurt.
I can't even tell you how directly applicable this message is to my life right now...